Taylor Swift may finally see that she is that girl. You know the one that I mean. The girl who has a hundred hook ups, dates a bunch of guys, falls in love at the drop of a hat, and without fail every time it ends badly.
And each time it ends, that girl is completely blindsided and heartbroken, never seeing what went wrong. Meanwhile, you sit there going “Did you really not notice that dude was a total dick?” or “Well, calling him 47 times a day may have been overkill.” But that girl doesn’t listen, and within the next week or two she is back out on the prowl, looking for her next Mr. Right.
Change the overbearing cell phone calls to buying a house down the block from the guy you’ve been banging for 2 weeks, and it’s a pretty spot on description of T. Swift. But there may be a light at the end of the crazy girl tunnel, because in a new interview for InStyle magazine, Swift admits she may need to make some changes in her dating approach.
There’s an old saying about admitting your faults that applies to Taylor pretty well. If one person thinks you’re an asshole, then you can ignore them. If two people think you’re an asshole, meh there may be truth there but it could also just be bullshit. However, if a whole room of people think you are an asshole, then yes- you most certainly are an asshole. Swift is that person who is finally seeing that an entire room thinks she is the problematic asshole in her relationships.
When you choose to date people like John Mayer, you obviously have questionable decision making ability (looking at you too, Katy Perry). However, in her interview with InStyle, Swift tries to play it off like her shitty choices are just part of a phase.
“My friends tease me about the fact that if someone seems bad or shady or like they have a secret, I find them incredibly interesting. That’s just a phase I’ve been in lately. I don’t think this should be how I proceed in life. It’s important to be self-aware about these things because you don’t want to end up with that guy.”
Can you really call something a “phase” if it’s been your M.O for years? Aren’t phases limited to a few weeks or months? “I know I’ve been sleeping around like a total whore for 25 years, but it’s just a phase you guys! I am so not a slut!”
But it is a good sign that Swift can see that she hasn’t been going after the nicest gentlemen. However, do we really think she is going to stop after the guys that will totally end in heartache? Swift’s whole musical career is based off of her post-break up lyrics. Without these experiences, what will Taylor write about? Let’s be honest, nobody wants to hear songs about her curly hair or her perfect life. They want anthems they can (secretly) sing along to in their cars and dive deep into reading between the lines of the lyrics, looking for passive aggressive shots at some famous guy.
No one should really hold their breath though, cause I feel like Swift has played the enlightened card before and it didn’t change things. Swift ends the article managing to sound sweet and snarky at the same time, which is kind of like all her music.
“I’d like to think if you’re with the right person, you just feel great about things you’ve never felt great about before. At least that’s how I’ve heard it’s suppose to be. I wouldn’t know.”
That’s a deep burn, Taylor. A nice big middle finger to Gyllenhaal! And Jonas. And Mayer, Lautner, Kennedy, Styles. Quite a phase, T. Swift. Quite a phase.